A few weeks ago I decided I wanted to do something BIG to commemorate my 30th birthday. Unfortunately I don’t have the PTO to go on a huge trip to New Zealand or Italy or China. I can’t really justify the expense of a multiple week-long road trip around the USA and Canada. Throwing an all-out bash complete with circus performers, letterpress invites, and a dress code probably isn’t in the cards either. I know if I indulge in a huge mound of chocolate, or buy 30 pairs of shoes I will eventually feel guilty for my excess. But lists? Lists I can do.
A few years ago I read Gretchen Rubin’s “Happiness Project” and while I really liked several of her goals and ideas, it wasn’t exactly the right format or end result I was looking for. But, the idea of choosing 12 things to focus on for the year, one per month, in order to improve ones life? That I can absolutely get behind. The last few weeks I’ve been making lists and looking at resolution blog posts of some of the bloggers I most admire, asking dozens of questions and advice from a handful of close friends, and I have finally come up with 12 things that are both manageable but will also stretch me as a person and force me to grow in new ways over the year. A few are a bit too personal for me to share here, but most will have ample blog time during their respective months. I am hoping to do a recap post once a month to break out the process, the results, and my thoughts on the outcome.
*I know there aren’t exactly 360 days in a year (30*12), but as I’m starting mid-month, and this is my 30th year, and dammit, it’s my BIRTHDAY today and a girl should be allowed to make her own rules on her birthday, I decided to just throw those extra 5 days to the wind and pretend they don’t exist because it makes for prettier math. If that drives you batty, you’re welcome to protest…elsewhere. Okay? Okay. Here we go.
30 x 12: A List
30 x 1: No sugar for 30-days 40 days. Lent starts today and I decided to tackle two sugary birds with the same stone..a stone of pure will power. A friend, Ms. JB, has graciously agreed to try this “no sugar” thing with me. I hope we can keep each other honest and motivated. For me the definition of “no sugar” means no sugar–raw, natural, or otherwise–no carbs like bread or potatoes or pasta or corn, and no fruit (which just turns to sugar in your blood stream). My goal for this experiment is to eat whole foods, lots of veggies, some lean protein, and a bit of dairy because while I can live without cupcakes I cannot live without cheese. I am hoping to lose a few pounds, yes, but I am also hoping to help train my taste buds to enjoy whole foods more and train my body to not want a cupcake for breakfast or a Diet Dr. Pepper by 10:00 am. Hopefully, some of these healthy eating habits will stick around a little while after Easter and I’ll have made a huge leap forward on any healthy eating notions I have for 2013.
30 x 2: Exercise every day for 30 days. I am not setting a time limit or running distance, but for me “exercise” means one breaks a sweat for multiple minutes in a row.
30 x 3: Focus on marriage and my relationship with J-Mo.
30 x 4: [redacted] Personal
30 x 5: No Facebook or other social media for 30 days.
30 x 6: Learn something new every day for 30 days. This can be as simple as a vocabulary word, something more complicated like knitting, or figuring out a new setting on my camera.
30 x 7: Focus on budgeting and finances. Not entirely sure what this will look like, or how much I am willing to share about it.
30 x 8: 30 days spent finishing projects. I don’t think I have 30 projects to finish, per se, but I want to finish up and clean up some of my “project piles” and start using them the way they were intended.
30 x 9: Clean or organize for 15 minutes every day for 30 days.
30 x 10: Mail 30 handwritten notes. No specific length or addressee, I just want to resurrect the idea of writing a note and mailing it.
30 x 11: Do one nice thing for someone else every day for 30 days. This can be big or small, important or not-so-important. This 30-day stretch will fall during the Christmas holiday and I really hope it helps make the season extra special for me.
30 x 12: Daily meditation. This can include yoga, journal writing, or even taking a walk whilst in the mindset of reflection (as opposed to trying to blow off anger or burn 300 calories). I’m hoping this will help solidify my thoughts on this whole process, and also help ease me in to age 31.
And there it is, my 30 x 12 that will hopefully keep me on a somewhat positive path for my 30th year. I am hoping this list will also help me accomplish some of my resolutions for the year, and some of the focus areas are specifically geared towards helping fulfill one of those goals. Here we go!
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I think it’s gonna be awesome. Good for you.
Comment by Adrianna 2013 February 13 @ 10:39 am*Crossing fingers!*
xox
Comment by heidikins 2013 February 14 @ 4:05 pm“while I can live without cupcakes I cannot live without cheese”
This. This is why we are friends.
(Happy birthday!)
Comment by audrey 2013 February 13 @ 1:20 pmOh my goodness, the amount of cheese I consume in a week is startling…well, relatively. I mean, it’s normal to have a bit of cheese with every meal, right? Or as a meal, right? RIGHT?!
xox
Comment by heidikins 2013 February 14 @ 4:05 pmThis is an awesome list! I love it!
Comment by Anna 2013 February 13 @ 5:29 pmThank you! I’m kind of excited! (Or, a lot excited!)
xox
Comment by heidikins 2013 February 14 @ 4:06 pmGo Get ‘em Tiger!
Comment by Melinda 2013 February 13 @ 5:38 pmRawr!
xox
Comment by heidikins 2013 February 14 @ 4:06 pmGreat list – I need to do your first and second items myself! Why does willpower get weaker as I get older?! ;o)
Comment by respect the shoes 2013 February 13 @ 8:39 pmI find will power gets weaker when giving up sweets or embracing sweaty things are required. It has nothing to do with age.
xox
Comment by heidikins 2013 February 14 @ 4:06 pmHappy Birthday!
Comment by Melinda 2013 February 13 @ 8:49 pmThank you!
xox
Comment by heidikins 2013 February 14 @ 4:06 pmI did 2 months of no sugar this fall. It was REALLY hard for the first two weeks but then it got easier. And while it doesn’t really follow the rules, I am going to start my Lent no sugar thing on Friday, because Valentine’s Day without sugar cookies is a sin.
Comment by AmySo 2013 February 13 @ 11:23 pmI’m on Day 1 right now, and I am kicking myself for my little birthday splurges yesterday! Gaaaaargh! Hopefully I can stay strong here at the beginning!
xox
Comment by heidikins 2013 February 14 @ 4:07 pmlove these! such a fun way to ring in 30
Comment by Katelin (@katelin) 2013 February 15 @ 6:50 pmI hope so! I can’t wait to get a few tucked under my belt and see how they go!
xox
Comment by heidikins 2013 February 19 @ 12:18 pmLove this list!!! Can’t wait to read all about your experiences!!
Comment by Erin Masihdas 2013 February 19 @ 9:50 amThanks! I really hope I can get some good insights and new habits out of this!
xox
Comment by heidikins 2013 February 19 @ 12:18 pmI did a version of Gretchen’s project a couple of years ago: The “Plan of Happiness” Project. I focused on gospel goals. It was a GREAT experience. You have prompted me to review my notes from Gretchen’s book and my journal notes from the project. Good luck – 30 x 12 will be a great year!
Comment by Grandma Kim 2013 February 25 @ 2:59 pm