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I have been sitting in front of my laptop for over an hour, writing the first paragraph of a post, deleting, and starting over. Lately, I have become an expert at starting over; new jobs, new relationships, new life plans, new shoes. It’s funny, in most ways I feel like I’m more stable now than I have ever been.
I didn’t really mention it here, but the temp job I was working over the summer has turned into a full-time, permanent position. One with benefits, regular hours, and a candy dish. I know I’ve said this next statement about a half-dozen other positions over the last two years, but I think this one will stick. I’m trying not to get overly excited about it, but I’m secretly busting at the seams at the thought of no longer job-jumping. Thrilled.
To be completely honest, most of my relationships are of the old and long-lasting type, not the new and shiny type. My urban tribe of friends has surrounded me and looked out for me in recent weeks in ways I don’t know if I can properly articulate or convey and certainly not in this medium. They deserve a party thrown in their honor, with awesome tapas and excellent gooody bags. That being said, there are a few new people in my life that have already made a terrific impact. Sometimes, people turn out to be awesome.
I even have a new Date Detective of sorts–he is someone I trust who volunteered to screen my dates. He’s one of those people who is fairly connected and knows just enough about enough people in my social circle to make a character call. I run a name past him, he tells me if the dude is worth my time; r eally, it’s a brilliant plan. I don’t think Date Detective thought I’d take him up on his offer, but I’m done with the deadbeats, the idiots, and the jerks. And, clearly, I am not great am making the judgment call to eliminate these guys. I am more than happy to have someone else make them for me for a little while, at least until I am better at separating out the ones who are not worth my time.
(I have no intention of using a Date Detective forever, but it’s awfully convenient to have a reading on a guy without going to the trouble of running a background check. Not that I’ve ever done that before. *shifts eyes* Ahem.)
Reinventing yourself, in any capacity, is exhausting and exciting, it can be scary or a relief, in short, it’s kind of a big deal. Don’t you watch those makeover shows? All those people who get new wardrobes, new make-up, new haircut and/or a new rooms–they all end up sobbing somewhere along the way. I mean, it’s all worth it in the end, but there are a lot of growing pains. And here I go again. New priorities, new agenda, new outlook, new me. Well, it’s actually just the “real” me breaking out of my shell a little more, and so far I like what I see.
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Well, I like you no matter what your incarnation! But yay for reinvention!
Comment by Allie 2010 October 20 @ 4:56 amI know you don’t know me very well; I’m sort of an interloper. But your sister, Pink, and I get along famously and she pointed me here. I’ve been lurking about since the Chicken Salad Incident (I felt a special kinship to you since I’ve done my fair share of vomiting in places that are less than ideal). While I’m not in your shoes per se (although I’d like to get into some of them) I do know what it is like to have your life be less than ideal. Sometimes the growing pains are unbearable. I ran across this not too long ago and it kind of made sense of things for me: When you sail the sea of change it is natural to long for shore. Hope you can weather it out.
xo -El
Comment by Elizabeth 2010 October 20 @ 8:50 amSo happy for you about the job! I also have faith that this one will stick and work out wonderfully. So glad that things seem to be pulling together for you! xoxo.
Comment by Jess 2010 October 20 @ 9:22 amI’m stoked for you about the job! I am currently looking for one so I know how frustrating it must have been for you in the past year. Glad things are finally going well for you again, despite growing pains and all.
Comment by Karen 2010 October 20 @ 11:02 amI think you’re doing mahvelously, dahling. We both are, really. Together.
*in relief society voice* just s’proud.
Comment by Lovestrong 2010 October 20 @ 11:47 amWahoo! Good new job! That is awesome!
Can I get a friend detective? One that eliminates the ones that are more work that neccesary? Can I also get a personal job searcher?
Comment by Stephanie 2010 October 20 @ 12:43 pmwoo for a new job, that is awesome! and um a date detective? i think everyone needs one, at least for a little while
Comment by katelin 2010 October 20 @ 4:53 pmYay for fresh starts! I have a saying posted on my office wall. I like to refer to it often to help me re-orient every so often. It says, “WHATEVER WE DO TODAY HAS IT’S ORIGINS IN THE PAST AND ITS PURPOSE IN THE FUTURE. CARRY ONLY THE BEST FORWARD.” I love anything new because it’s such a great opportunity to carry the best things forward, and leave all the crappy rotten stuff in the past where it belongs.
Oh, and anything new is a great excuse to buy new shoes
Comment by Katie 2010 October 20 @ 6:58 pmWow, fantastic post. Congratulations on the job! That’s exciting
I can relate alot to this post. I found myself nodding saying ‘hey that’s me! that’s what I’m doing!’ – well not the date detective but reinventing myself xx
Comment by Chantel 2010 October 20 @ 7:16 pmI think you may be onto something there! I would totally like, (if of course I was going to bother dating ever again! LoL) someone to vet all the weirdoes or marrieds that I too seem to attract!!
I totally admire your ability to keep trying, despite all the knocks you still keep believing!
And I’m sure that Mr Right for you is out there wondering when he’s going to get a break and catch his Mrs Right!
Congrats on the Job, so happy for you, it gives me faith in the world when nice things happen to nice people!
I’ve started over again too, everything is the way I want it, I’m becomming a little selfish which I think is good every once in a while ( and it’s been a long while! LoL)
Seeya Hugya *G*
Comment by grungedandy 2010 October 21 @ 9:40 amYou are amazing friend! Congrats on the job, you deserve it!
Comment by lex 2010 October 22 @ 12:51 pmI love the idea of the date detective, or “The Gate Keeper”. I actually had a really good guy friend when I was dating who would give very insightful opinions about all the men we both knew that I had interest in. It can help a lot, depending on the friend.
I love recreating myself. It is the most fun and easiest way to keep things interesting. The trick is learning how to do it enough to scratch the itch, while maintaining the stability you need to be a grown up.
Comment by Fei 2010 October 22 @ 4:35 pmReal is always best! You should be very proud of yourself and all that you are discovering and accomplishing!
Comment by Kym 2010 October 26 @ 12:19 pmPerhaps the Dating Detective can open up to a partnership and we together can become the dating panel? A little female/male perspective may broaden the arrangement. After all – I said no to that creeper during the first 10 seconds of interacting with him. I gots the creeper-dar. I feel that’s worth something
Comment by Andrea 2010 October 27 @ 5:06 pm