Comments on: That probably wasn’t quite what you thought it might have been…

By: Erin

Erin — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 07:22:23 +0000

Are you the Von Trapps?

I’m sure of it.

By: thecoconutdiaries

thecoconutdiaries — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 19:22:51 +0000

Your sister’s name has elicited “Sound of Music” tunes in my head. Awesome!

By: Nic

Nic — Thu, 09 Jul 2009 04:07:49 +0000

Beautiful family!

I wish I had the answers, but I’m also someone who doesn’t get it. I wish it were easier.

By: Durga

Durga — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 14:01:17 +0000

Hey Heidi,
I haven’t been here in ages. My friend in Utah has a shoe business http://www.shoeparty.com/products/ and she asked me to pass the info on to other shoe lovers in Utah and in all seriousness….u were the only one i could think of. So it reminded me to come visit ur blog.
I think u guys look great in black. Your sister (bride) looks lovely in her simple elegant dress too. its good that u all know to wear black together. at my brother in law’s wedding everyone in the family wore black accidently and i wore bright red. so in all the pics i stand out (not that i dont already) a lot. haha.

On the whole ‘getting it’ thing and short courtships…
u know how it is in the church…
as we don’t have pre-marital sex and date to marry in the Temple….there is a seriousness factor quite early in the relationship…people want to know if they ‘feel’ right and if dating for longer has any purpose to it….the person is marriage material or not. There really usually isn’t a whole lot of casual ongoing for years kinda dating with no big deal about marriage kinda view there.
Having said that, it is important to get to know a person as much as possible and see how compatible we are together before getting married…it will obviously avoid anything big popping up later on to deal with. But as you know u cannot cut people open to really find out what a weirdo they really are.
I prayed and asked for the Spirit to help me a lot. Not using Mormon lingo…but I seriously did. I wanted to think about M and marriage in the Temple and not feel anxious or doubt or scared. I knew that those feelings meant we were not ready and if I was feeling this after a year od dating…it was nover going to be it.
I knew the day I felt totally cool / peaceful (?) with the thought of me+M->Temple=Forever…M was it and it was going to be OK. No fireworks….no burning…just real good…a very its going to be ok feeling…a good feeling.
So, Heidi…sorry for the whole big long essay.
You know what you are worth. Is he worthy of you? There is your answer.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 19:10:15 +0000

Oh, yeah. Open your options, too. That helps.

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 19:09:37 +0000

Here’s the thing. We all have some things, whatever they may be, that are our trials in life, you know? The important thing is not to give up faith. That’s the test you’re tested with. That was me too, so I know. Just hang in. Don’t cave in to anything. Demand what you deserve, and you will eventually feel what it’s like. Look on the bright side, you have been able to become very well traveled and wise in your life experience. Once your knot is tied, kabosh (probably)! You’ll start saving for a house.

By: katelin

katelin — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 22:37:18 +0000

yeah i don’t get how so people can date and get married in such a short time too. i mean really, i’ve known matt almost ten years and that was just the right amount of time, haha. and if he had proposed any sooner than he did i’m pretty sure i would have freaked out a bit.

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 18:12:30 +0000

Darling picture! Haven’t seen or heard from you in ForEVER! I was just thinking about you today and wanted to check up on you. Hope all is well!

By: sovknight

sovknight — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 17:23:58 +0000

My family is basically the opposite of yours. My parents married after an insanely short courtship, but neither my brother (40), me, (37), or my little sister (30) have any desire whatsoever to be married.

I think it’s a matter of perspective. I think you have more. Insanely short courtships are NOT a good thing. You’re doing the right thing. As far as “getting it”, I’d say that you “get it” probably better than your siblings do.

By: Sra

Sra — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 16:30:32 +0000

Well, there could be several things going on. Your earlier experiences have probably colored your willingness to jump haphazardly into a marriage commitment, right? Your siblings could have decided to make that commitment whilst in the infatuation phase, and as we all know, marriage or lifelong commitment always sounds like a good idea in the infatuation phase Sometimes it works out after that phase ends, sometimes it doesn’t.